Tuesday, October 16, 2012

No Significance

Baby's first high five
We received the detailed ultrasound early this morning.  "No significance of isolated bilateral CP cyst" Woohoo!!  Everything else came back normal so the cyst is nothing to worry about.

I was surprised how detailed the scan was.  They measured just about everything you can imagine, even the baby's ears.  Since I experienced years of playground ridicule and was nick-named Dumbo in school, I was happy to read that the baby has average sized ears.  Later in life, I embraced my big ears and learned how to wiggle them to impress first-dates.  Brent is such a lucky guy.

The scan came in the early hours of the morning, so I was reading the details with one eye opened and half asleep.  Reading through the scan, I saw something that totally took me by surprise.  "Sex: Female".  I couldn't believe it!   Indian law says that you can't reveal the sex of a baby before it is born, but there it was - we're having a girl!  I laid there in bed for two hours, unable to sleep, thinking of our little girl and the life we're going to have with her.  Of course, we would love the baby just as much if it were a boy, but this news had me so excited!  After a couple of hours of day dreaming, I looked through the scan again and quickly realized that "Sex: Female" was noted about our surrogate - not the baby!  Oops.  :)

Not knowing the gender is kind of hard.  We're both big planners and not knowing if it's a boy or girl is kind of a big variable when it comes to baby clothes and nursery themes. There are only so many yellow & green onesies.   That being said, this baby already has 84 outfits for its first year.  I counted last weekend.  84.  That means it will wear each outfit about three times.  This baby is going to be so spoiled.

Since we've tempted fate and ignored all of the superstitions about buying baby things before the 2nd trimester and have been going all out since even before we signed the surrogacy contract, it makes total sense to put the nursery together 5 months before the baby will ever see it.  We decided on a nursery theme and have already started putting things together. We went with a bold contrast of monochrome & bright red.  A bit unconventional on nursery color, but it's coming together as a fun room, yet relaxing room.

The next scan is in a month, so hopefully it will be a very boring month for us!

18 comments:

  1. What a relief to find out your surrogate is female! Too funny. Best of luck on continuing uneventful baby development. Fellow Dumbo ears here as well.

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  2. So pleased that everything is going along smoothly. Even more pleased that your surrogate is female!
    Don't worry....you're not along in the pre-emptive shopping stakes!
    *shrugs guiltily!*

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  3. So pleased that everything is going along smoothly. Even more pleased that your surrogate is female!
    Don't worry....you're not along in the pre-emptive shopping stakes!
    *shrugs guiltily!*

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  4. Great news guys! You gotta post nursery pics, it sounds great!
    K

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  5. Great news! Not knowing the gender is hard for us as well. Not that we care what it is, I just want to buy gender-specific things...and to also stop calling it "it".

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  6. Love the high five! Great news on the surrogate being female... Fingers crossed for a boring few more months!

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  7. You are too funny. I am still laughing. Ok so a newbie question: Does the clinic avoid sending any of the sono photos that "might" reveal gender?

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    1. I've been asking myself the same question. I'm thinking the answer is yes... I've received nothing but head shots for the last 4 months!

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    2. From what I understand, yes, they intentionally do not send photos that could reveal the gender. I saw somewhere noted that IPs have even taken the ultrasound photos to their local Dr to see if they could determine the sex, but had no luck. I guess it will be a surprise!

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  8. OMG, that sounds like something I would totally do (re: seeing "female" daydreaming for hours and then finding out it meant the surro).

    If we are lucky enough to have a baby we are totally having a dinosaur themed room regardless of the sex. (I <3 dinos).

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  9. i started to read this post and was ahhhh bless thats so cool you know the sex.....you can plan the outfits... the nursery......... man oh man i read the last line! to be fair i would have prob done the same thing, at least the surros a girl :) Nursery sounds cool, looking forward to the pics!x

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  10. Great news! And what a tease!

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  11. I totally see a piano player in your future with those beautiful little fingers! Good news on the scan - hoping that everything is boring from here on out.

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  12. Ha, ha. I was so jealous when I thought you knew the sex of your bub. I was already trying to envision how I could manipulate finding out the sex of our kids. Then I read it was your surrogate's gender being identified. You had me going there.
    It's important that the kid be well dressed, 84 outfits should "cover it" :)
    Awesome scan with the hand.

    We just got our 23 week all-is-good report w/ scans.

    Here's to an uneventful & speedy 5 months to go...cheers!
    Howie

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  13. Ha! I'm sitting at home alone at the moment and was LOL'ing. I saw the photo and you instantly thought there was a goof and you found out. Doh! As for not knowing the gender, I know it's going to drive me nuts!

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  14. Hi brent and charlie, as you know at first it bothered me not knowing babys gender, i felt quite disconnected from our baby and felt this would help me , i also felt I'd prefer a girl as there are mostly girls in my extended family "if you dont have a sister you ARE a sister....but then something changed inside of me and i just couldn't care less what gender it is, I speak to our baby each night and morning, and I adore him/her so very much . Also decorating the nursery lately ive actually found it easy buying a mixture of bright colour stuff, so that rather than everything being "white so neutral" which some do...we've just thought well if we dont know if its pink or blue we will get this in pink and that in blue :-)

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  15. I just got to reading this and I, too, laughed out loud when you realized your mistake. It's hard to trust fate. So, so hard...but I'm guessing the surprise of finding out the gender the day of your child's birth is pretty cool, too. As my mother used to say, "patience is a virtue"...look forward to hearing more. PIcs of nursery DEMANDED :-)

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