Thursday, May 30, 2013

Three Months

Asha is three months old!  Sometimes it feels like it's too soon for her to have been in our lives for a quarter of a year already.  Other times it feels like she has been in our lives for so much longer since she was years in the making.

She is trying her hardest to let out a real laugh.  I can't wait to hear it.  For now, it comes out as "heeeee".

For the most part, she has still been doing very well sleeping at night, with only one of us getting up for a bottle around 3-4.  The past two days have been totally out of character with her not really able to sleep much.  I took the first half of the night on the couch with the baby monitor, putting her down no less than 5 times.  Brent took the second half of the night with about the same amount of joy and ending up falling asleep on the nursery floor.  The pleasures of parenthood!


She is playing with her toys a lot more.  She has one that sends her into goofy bliss whenever she activates the lights or sounds which is so much fun to watch (but if I hear that song one! more! time!!).  She has also started to fuss the second that you pick her up if she isn't sleepy.  The second that you put her back down, all smiles and giggles.  Pick her back up, screams bloody murder.  She only wants to be held when she is sleepy.  I certainly don't mind her being miss independent and wanting to explore all around her, but it's just crazy how quickly she has become so interested in the world around her and not just her parents.

We are really hoping that India figures out surrogacy for singles/gay couples soon.  We actually tried to make it into that window of "babies born in 2013", but the pregnancy test was a negative.  There was a tiny part of that result that was relief since the transfer was scheduled only weeks after we left India for baby #1.  Though, most of it was a let down, as any negative attempt would be, with the added worry of it possibly being the last chance we had to give Asha a sibling.  We can always start over somewhere else, but we've already invested 15k for baby #2 and it would really suck to lose that and all of the genetically related embryos that we have frozen in India (15!).  I will certainly keep the complaining to a minimum on this topic because there are so many singles & gay couples out there who are totally childless.  FIGURE IT OUT, INDIA!!

Sunday Funday in the backyard

In other news, we're buying a house!  I've never heard of offering asking price for a home and the seller counter offering for 10k higher, but apparently that's the market of Seattle right now.  The seller had other offers for 25k more than we offered, but they accepted our offer because we sent them a picture of us with Asha and a little bit of our story and they liked us.  There are some pretty cool people in this world, to accept less money simply because we were a new family who just happened to be two dads.

Here is a typical morning:

Ugh, I am so sleeeeepy

Oh, hey!  You again!  I missed you!

but that looks delicious

Give me the effin bottle or I give you my fist!

Hope all is well with everyone else.

Charlie. Brent, and Asha


  1. Congrats on so many great things happening! First Asha, now your awesome new house! I'm really sorry to hear about your negative for baby nr 2. Even though you already have one child, a dashed hope for a child is just as sad for everyone, so I'm sorry to hear it. But it looks like Asha's keeping you rather busy in the meantime. All the best.

  2. Wow congratz on getting a new house ;-). Yes, the housing mkt is bottoming out in US, time to get in with such low rate! Asha is so cute! Love love love her pics!

  3. Great update guys, and nice pictures of Asha. Interestingly my partner likes the name "Asha" and I just told him we can't name our potential girl Asha because it's been used by Brent and Charlie! LOL...
    Congrats on the new house. We are hearing good news about the change in Indian surrogacy extending it to include singles. So hopefully you guys will try for a sibling project for Asha! :)

  4. Congratulations on the new house, and to waking up to such a sweetheart every morning. She is a cutie!!!!

  5. Gosh, it seems like yesterday I was sleeping on the nursery floor, and trying to figure it all out...and we still are, but in different ways. As you said..."the joys of parenthood!" Sorry about the negative, guys...totally sucks big time. But you have the right perspective when you say you are lucky to have your little one and YES, India needs to figure it out, big time. It seems Seattle has, huh? Congrats on the house and look forward to more blog posts. Asha is ADORABLE, by the way...dimples TO DIE FOR. Be well...

  6. Congrats on all fronts, guys! I don't think it's complaining at all - I think it's obvious you guys are grateful for your baby but having a child is as wonderful dream as building a family and having more kids. I know :) I wish all childless couples/singles with SCI can have a baby but I also wish those already with children can have more and grow their family. So wonderful to read your updates!

  7. ahh bless, what a little cutie, how sweet are those dimples!

  8. Great to know that all is well with Asha. Thanks for the update. Cheers!

  9. Hi C and B

    If I have ever helped you in the past can you now please help me. If I have never helped you, please just help if you can.

    Some spam from Meg, and proud of it!

    Surrogacy mum and babies through surrogacy in India need your help.

    Please read their full story at this link and please give whatever you can.

  10. Dear Asha,

    You are the cutest little baby. We have matching dimples and short hair. Of course, you're way cuter. I can't wait to come visit you. I have a onsie for you, it has little sock monkeys printed all over it; I hear you like monkeys. I can't wait to hear your little laugh, even if it is just a 'heeeee' although I am aware that I will more likely hear your fussing.

    P.S. You look so cute when you wake up in the morning, especially when you are eyeing your bottle!

    Love you soooo much and I can't wait to meet you. <3